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How much it costs to get married in South Africa

How much it costs to get married in South Africa

Stats SA data shows that there were close to 151,000 marriages in 2014 – serving a multi-billion rand industry in South Africa.

And while the global wedding industry is estimated to be worth around $300 billion annually, in SA, recent figures point to a custom in decline.

According to Stat SA, the number of weddings taking place each year has been in steady decline, with the number of marriages between 2013 and 2014 down by 5%.

At the same time, divorce rates in South Africa are climbing. Stats SA data showed that in 2014 there were 24,689 divorces, up from the 23,885 in 2013 – and up too, from 2011.

Read: 8 things you probably didn’t know about divorce in South Africa

According to attorney Hugh Raichlin, one of the biggest factors for higher divorce rates are financial woes.

And given the financial costs associated with getting married – where some couples take out loans to cover the the costs – it can put a couple behind the eight ball from the outset.

The cost of a wedding

Costs vary greatly depending on the size and location of the wedding.

According to professional wedding planners, Great Occasions, the average cost of wedding in South Africa is between R70,000 – R80,000 for 80 to 100 people.

However, the group notes that these going prices per head (R700 to R800) could easily escalate to R1,500 or R2,000 per person (R200,000 for a wedding).

According to Great Occasions, a wedding budget is typically broken down into the following:

  • 50% of the budget goes to the venue – including hire costs, food and alcohol.
  • 10% of the budget goes to the Wedding gown and accessories
  • 15% of the budget goes to photography, music, flowers and decor
  • 10% of the budget goes towards invitations and table gifts
  • 15% should be budgeted for unforeseen costs, such as travelling expenses, service providers and consultations fees.

Working within the bounds of the group’s wedding cost range of R70,000 – R200,000, this translates to:

  • R35,000 – R100,000 for the venue;
  • R7,000 – R20,000 for the dress;
  • R10,500 – R30,000 for the extras;
  • R7,000 – R20,000 for the invites and gifts;
  • and R10,500 – R30,000 for everything else.

However, there are other factors to consider.

Financial journalist, Maya Fisher-French broke down wedding costs further, including items such as the wedding rings, honeymoon and even lobola.

According to Fisher-French, citing survey data from Visa in 2012, on average, couples plan to spend R27,000 on a honeymoon, and R20,000 on an engagement ring. For traditional weddings, lobola comes to about R40,000.

Even these costs can escalate, though, with some respondents saying they would pay as much as R100,000 for the ring, and R250,000 for lobola.

With these extra costs taken into account, the the price can escalate significantly to between R120,000 (excluding lobola) and R290,000 (all included).

Fisher-French said that while these prices are an average, they can easily double.

Wedding and lifestyle group, Yes Baby Daily also broke down the “realistic” costs of a wedding, finding a low-end average at R55,000 and a high-end average at R270,000+ – all inclusive.

According to Fisher-French, if couples take out a loan to fund an “average” R150,000 wedding, they would need R5,500 a month (if not more) over the next three years to repay the debt.

That equates to a 10% deposit on a R1.3 million home – or if invested, could grow to be R500,000 in 10 years, she said.

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  • James Dean

    Black folk spend too much money on funerals and white folk are just as guilty by spending too much money on weddings. This has been my observation.

    • LBS

      Not to mention divorces.

    • Mkhawuleni Magwaza

      I wouldn’t agree to that because I bought 7 cows for R45 000 to pay lobola and I still have to buy four more for at least R25 000. on the wedding day I’ll be expected to buy two ox which currently cost around R13 000 each, the food and drinks should cost more than R40 000, the décor R20 000, the wedding dress R15 000 all included, one has to provide transport for the bride’s family to cost more than R15 000, hire the cars at the wedding at around R20 000, traditional extras at R15 000.
      what now? can we really say RR221 000 is “cheap”? in the next few years these costs will have an inflation effect.

      • MarvinTheParanoidAndroid

        I’ve never come across a woman worth R221k to me.

        From what you say she *really* *is* that valuable to you, so I have to ask – do you have an idea of how valuable you are to her?

        Will she give up R221k of value just to be with you?

      • Fanandala

        Of course I do not have a clue as to how long you have to work to earn that money. But for most young couples this would surely be a sum that would help them tremendously to start out, in married life. Eg. a down payment for a house etc.

        I think a lot of friction in marriages revolve around money or rather the lack of it.

    • Mohamed Patel

      You haven’t seen a black wedding… they spend just as much as white people.

  • I had a plain garden wedding last year with only a new pair of shoes bought. Only immediate family at the ceremony, and a few friends added for a small restaurant get together. Spent a much bigger amount on our honeymoon overseas.

    We just decided to rather spend the money on our own celebration rather than on the wedding itself which is mainly to keep other people happy.

    • Sennen Goroshi

      Smart move man…

    • VaMutuki

      And how much did you spend on Lobola?

      • Mucaine

        The parents pay labola by buying the couple a house

      • Padraigin Eagle

        Lola came free, it was one of those all-in-affairs, where we drank champagne and danced all night, under electric candle light, when she picked me up onto her knee, I knew it was time to fly free 😉

        https :// www. youtube. com/watch?v=LemG0cvc4oU

      • Blapartheid Zulu

        Don’t think their culture has lobola… Lucky!!!

    • Blapartheid Zulu

      Excellent idea!

  • 45k all in. People thought we spent double that. Plan smart. 70k+ is ridiculous

  • Joe Soap

    And it’s all self-inflicted.

    • James Dean

      Totally.

  • Lone Stranger

    This makes me scared of ever getting married. I would rather have a cheap wedding and a fancy honeymoon than the other way around. The people are just at the wedding for the food anyway. I would rather have a nice honeymoon with the person I love. That is more memorable than anything.

    • James Dean

      Wise option but you’ll need to find someone that’ll agree from the get go.

      • Lone Stranger

        That is why I’m still single. Haven’t found that someone yet 😛

      • MarvinTheParanoidAndroid

        Lots of women do – I get married often, and never took a loan for my weddings. TBH it depends on the guy to some extent.

        If she’s already agreed to marry you, she appears exceptionally stupid to her friends and family if she refuses when the wedding costs come up and the guy refuses to budge over the costs.

        It’s worse (for her) if you’re considered a catch by her friends and family – they’ll happily tell her “The reason he’s rich is because he doesn’t waste his money”, and most women don’t need to be told twice
        when it comes to rich men.

        The men who take a loan to get married are not rich – there aren’t a line of women behind the bride-to-be itching to take her place in the Sandton mansion – so these men do what they can to make sure she goes through with it.

        The men who are rich don’t actually give many fscks about whether the bride-to-be has second thoughts ‘cos there’ll be women queuing up behind her to take her place anyway.

        Add the fact that smart women would value a man who spends his money wisely, and all you are left with is stupid women who insist on pricey weddings marrying stupid men who don’t have many options.

        It all balances out nicely in the end.

        • Knobbiewan

          Im confused by the “I get married often” part.

          • MarvinTheParanoidAndroid

            What’s confusing about it?

          • elboertjie

            I reckon that your then-wifes realised that they could not change you as they thought and that their ever-growing demands and frustrations got the better of them, hence the divorces. Or, if you don’t mind sharing, in general terms, what the issue(s) is? Thank you

          • MarvinTheParanoidAndroid

            There is no issue. It’s simply the safest option for a man who wants a live-in woman.

            Marriage with a prenup gives you a decent level of protection in the event the relationship collapses. Cohabitation defaults to a community-of-property common-law marriage after six months.

            When she decides she has had enough of me not giving fscks, or when I decide I’ve had enough of her s**t, I get to keep all my property and goods.

            With cohabitation she gets a claim to half my stuff after staying with me for six months.

            Many couples living together right now don’t realise that they are, for practical purposes, married in community-of-property. Men cheerfully say “Hey, it’s not like we’re *married*” while not realising that they’ve been living together for years.

            The system works, if only you use it.

          • Knobbiewan

            Agreed. Lets not forget that debt would also be divided.

          • MarvinTheParanoidAndroid

            In theory, yes, in practice you cannot just pay your creditor your half and tell them to claim the other half from the ex-wife.

            What do you do if you pay your half but she refuses to pay her half and both of you get blacklisted?

            She won’t care about being blacklisted – she’ll just get a new man to open her accounts, like when buying a car.

            It *will* affect you. Your new woman won’t want to buy you a car because your ex bankrupted you.

          • Mucaine

            I think you should invest some of you wealth into preventative STD medication, just in case you pick up one who has been around more than you.

          • MarvinTheParanoidAndroid

            Why do you sound so upset by my serial monogamy? You made a bunch of replies implying that it is a sub-optimal choice.

            Well, for you, maybe it is.

            I’m rather happy that I don’t spend my life attempting to please someone who is fully motivated by the state to upgrade when the time comes.

            The odds are, what, 2 out of three marriages that occur this week will end in divorce? You want me to bet money on being in the smaller group? It’s insane to act against ones self-interest.

            Something like 1/3 of all paternity tests (there’s a study on this) during divorce proceedings show that the husband is not actually the father. Poor odds again.

            If my current marriage works out – then all good and well, but if it doesn’t I’m not going to lose sleep over it. I just do not understand why the concept of repeated upgrading of a partner affected you the way it did.

          • Mucaine

            No, I’m not upset, Marvin. My point is simply that don’t read any happiness in your “it’s my way or the highway” lifestyle.

          • MarvinTheParanoidAndroid

            You may not read it, but it is there. Why would I do something that I am not happy with?

            I’ve already said that I’m sad at the end of the relationship, that I simply move on, and that if the relationship does not end, so be it.

            Is it really considered “happiness” to tie ones sense of self-worth and identity to a partner?

          • Knobbiewan

            Serious question time. What if your spouse inherits debt from family and you divorce without prenuptial?

          • MarvinTheParanoidAndroid

            With no prenup her debt is your debt and vice versa – you are not responsible for 50% each of the debt, you are *both* responsible for 100% of the debt.

            However, you cannot in SA “inherit” debt. Creditors get to raid the estate of the dead person, and if the dead person had not enough assets to cover the debt, then too bad – that creditor is out his money.

            You only get debt that you signed for, or (if married in CoP) your spouse signed for. Minors aren’t allowed to sign (some exceptions) and major children own their own debts.

          • LBS

            OK thanks for spelling it out.

          • William

            This is incorrect. Cohabitation is not recognised as a legal relationship by south african law, regardless of the duration.

          • MarvinTheParanoidAndroid

            From www . divorcelaws . co . za / the-law-on-cohabitation.html

            “Although legally cohabitants do not have the same rights as partners in a marriage or civil union, the South African courts have on occasion come to the assistance of couples by deciding that an express or implied universal partnership exists between them. A universal partnership exists when parties act like partners in all material respects without explicitly entering into a partnership agreement. In these cases, where the relationship breaks down, the court awards a share of the assets acquired during the relationship to each party. To prove a universal partnership is very difficult and certain requirements must be satisfied”

            So, yes, in the event of a relationship breakdown your assets can, and will, be divided if one party feels entitled to it. Which is why I said “for practical purposes”.

            This is currently changing though – new legislation is apparently being drafted to “rectify” this loophole.

          • William

            Proving universal partnership is very different from “community-of-property common-law marriage” and those laws are in effect for any kind of partnership that would qualify, but inferring that she could claim half your stuff simply because you lived together for 6 months is ridiculous.

          • MarvinTheParanoidAndroid

            It happened before, to me. The trouble with “prove” is that is not the same as for criminal hearings – balance of probability shifts the burden of proof back and forth in civil hearings.

            She shifted burden of proof to me by simply testifying that we lived as man and wife, and our fortunes, good or bad, were understood to be shared fortunes. At that point there was is no practical difference from being married in CoP.

            I had to shift burden of proof back to her in my reply by displaying actual evidence via bank statements that my fortunes paid for my properties. It went back and forthin this way until she backed down before the trial date.

            Thus “no practical difference”…

          • Madimetsha

            it is actually……6 months I think..depends though

          • LBS

            I admit. I’m curious, I also want to know.

        • Mucaine

          Married often eh? Sounds to me you have deep pockets and short arms. But then, in your case, what’s love got to do with it…?

          • MarvinTheParanoidAndroid

            Nothing, apparently. It’s in the aricle

          • MarvinTheParanoidAndroid

            Love may be a factor, but it doesn’t mean I have to be stupid about it. Just because she loves me now doesn’t mean I can depend on her to love me always.

            Like I said before, it all works out in the end – if she wants to leave I’ll help her pack and send her on her way. Sure, I’ll be sad, but there’s always another sweet young thing to take her place anyway.

          • LBS

            You probably spend much more on divorces ☺

          • MarvinTheParanoidAndroid

            Yeah, but *those* are worth it 🙂

          • LBS

            LOL

          • Mucaine

            I’m sure, poor bugger

          • Mucaine

            And as you get older and uglier, you will have nothing else to offer those ‘sweet young things’ but the money you held onto so tightly.

          • MarvinTheParanoidAndroid

            That’s fine – there are lots of older women (say, +35) out there who are finding diminishing options as they age. When they are 40, and I’m 60, I’ll still have someone to share my bed.

            Also, you make it sound like I hold no to my money very very tightly – that is not true. I simply refuse to spend unwisely, like throwing the money away on a high-priced wedding.

          • Padraigin Eagle

            The rabbit hole goes deep, I suggest a sense of humour would lighten the steep. 😉

          • LBS

            Well said! he he he

      • Mucaine

        It will surprise you how many moneywise people there are.

    • Mucaine

      For sure!

    • CG_Guy

      Wedding does not have to be expensive. Just the the Guest, food, venue or whatever. Better still private wedding are affordable.

    • Hein Aggenbag

      I must admit…we didn’t have food there, only desert and drinks. The people were there because we were making a forever promise in front of all our friends and family to God, to love, cherish and respect each other…and to hold us accountable to that promise afterwards. What a glorious honor it is for any man to find a wife! He who finds a wife, finds a good thing.

      • Padraigin Eagle

        I was really looking forward to the food, Hein.

        And I’m pleased you’ve found love. If you ever find mine, please return it to me.;-)

    • Fanandala

      The Brides mother (mostly) is a cost escalator.

  • Charl

    Wedding was around R60K + R35K for the honeymoon. Someone I know took out loans and spent close to R150K on their wedding.

    • Sennen Goroshi

      That’s one thing I will never do… take a loan to get married… infact that’s a contributing factor that caused me and ex-fiance to break up.. she wanted to get married immediately… she wanted me to take out a loan.. I said No… I wanted us to save for it.. I mean I had the ability to save about R7.5k a month and she could save about R3k… but Noooooo she wanted to get married before she turned 30…

      When I asked ..how are we going to live if we have to pay off loans.. pay a bond.. rates etc…so she gave me an ultimatum.. take out a loan and marry her or break up. I chose the latter…

      Ain’t no way I was gonna bury myself in debt over someone whose not financially conscious.

      • MarvinTheParanoidAndroid

        Well done – now she’s someone else’s problem. You got all the sex and fun from her youth and now some other poor shmuck will get stuck with the bill for her age 🙂

        Really, really well done. Men would do well to learn from your experience.

        🙂

        • Sennen Goroshi

          Thank you, Thank you.. I know right.. I did such a great job it’s commendable.. infact I deserve a medal .. Diamond encrusted one at that…

          you just had to be that guy.. …

  • ettventer

    I’m a wedding photographer, and I frequently shoot weddings that cost no less than 300-400k. It’s unbelievable.

    What blows my mind even more is when I shoot 200-300K weddings for couples who are in their early 20s, taking out a loan to pay for their expensive wedding.

    • LBS

      For others to enjoy while they could have saved towards a house.

    • Padraigin Eagle

      Meatloaf sang it best

      If I paid you R200k, et, would you shoot my bride!

      https :// www. youtube. com/watch?v=SmPMMitJDYg

  • NosySnoopy

    When you are young and stupid you think you have to pay this much. Impress your friends and family. Then you don’t even hear from some of the family again for years and your friendship circle changes as some grow up and others not.
    Save money for a house or on a memorably honeymoon in stead.
    You can thank me later.

  • bengine

    mine cost R 5K – mainly for food and drink. Family pitched in and helped with everything – turned out to be an awesome occasion – everyone enjoyed it and given where I am now an absolute bargain – 20+ years of marriage and all of them better than the year before.

    Big weddings seem to me to be a way to try and make up for something that is not there and / or as a means to compete with the Jones’ – not really a great foundation to start the rest of one’s life.

    Preach ends.

    • Knobbiewan

      Not always. Marrying an Italian woman from a Catholic family. Weddings are a huge deal for them and as such every family member needs to be present. The head count sky rockets and all expenses follow. Bigger venue; larger menu; more accommodation for overseas family etc. We would have loved to keep things small, but sometimes thats not possible.

      • MarvinTheParanoidAndroid

        Yes, weddings are a big deal for Catholics (I married a Catholic woman once).

        However, you have to ask yourself – how is it that poor Catholics in Italy are able to have big weddings while keeping costs down?

        “A large celebration” does not necessarily mean that you have to have an expensive venue, you know. Have ceremony in the Church and rent out a huge garden/park for the reception/celebration, with food appropriate to the setting.

        The costs rise when you decide it must be a nice venue in Rosebank, and you will get a caterer who charges per plate, with fitted chairbacks, fancy tablecloths, centerpieces, rented cutlery, etc. In a garden/park setting why do you have to have all those things?

        The poor Italians having big weddings are spending much on it – plastic tables and chairs in a park with finger-food doesn’t cost that much.

        • Knobbiewan

          Firstly you’re comparing South Africa with Italy. Secondly with a garden/park setting (assuming you can find a safe one in JHB) you still need to hire out tables; cutlery; table cloths; glasses; plates; chairs etc unless you expect everyone to it on the grass and eat out of polystyrene meal packs and there is the additional cost of a marquee for 120 people so guests dont fry in our beautiful South African sunshine. Im not sure you will be saving too much on the costs there. The drinks etc will also be an additional cost in that setting. With a venue you can always have a cash bar.

      • bengine

        Also married a Catholic – point was there is spending that is linked to the points you raise and there is spending that soars above that for other reasons. The trend toward excess driven by the media and this inexplicable need to outdo the next person (girl) is what I am talking about.

    • Mucaine

      See? Money can’t buy love.

    • quiken

      Erm… you paid R5k for a wedding 20 years ago? Factor in inflation and you probably spent a decent amount in todays terms.

      • bengine

        Yup at 6% YoY inflation it would be a whopping R16,035.68 today. Someone call the Gupta’s – they have been outdone ….

  • Gary Fields

    $25 in a Florida courthouse. Of course, it didn’t last – remind me to go ask for a refund.

  • Knobbiewan

    I can believe this. I’ll be getting married in December this year. Total estimated cost is currently at 230k for 120 people. Anything with the word “wedding” attached to it automatically doubles in price.

    • MarvinTheParanoidAndroid

      You’re doing it wrong

      • Knobbiewan

        Evidently. I must not be as practiced as you are.

  • myPointOfView

    I got married in 2012 and it only cost me R80 000 for 200+ people.

    Hall was R1 500
    Decore R7 000
    Wedding Dress R10 000
    Suits(4) R1 000
    Food R220 pp
    Honeymoon R5 000

    • Warren

      you get married in a baseball club?

      • LBS

        No Warren, there are plenty other nice venues other than wine estates

      • thornik

        We were waiting that joke 🙂

      • myPointOfView

        Nope. A beautiful hall in stellenbosch with an oversight of the mountain. No need for a wine farm/estate. Its overrated

        • Warren

          thats very cool – let me know the hall name if you dont mind – i live in stellies and would love to check it out?

          • myPointOfView

            you know tokara?

          • Warren

            i do indeed – ill have a look

  • Francois Engelbrecht

    You think marriage is expensive? Try divorce 😉

    • Mucaine

      Finally! Words of wisdom.

    • MarvinTheParanoidAndroid

      Divorce is cheap if you don’t have kids

      • Mucaine

        Says the expert

        • MarvinTheParanoidAndroid

          Yup – would you rather trust the advice of someone who has *not* done it a few times?

          (Yes, I’ve got a kid. See him regularly and we have a great relationship.)

  • MasterZu

    “We buy things we don’t need with money we don’t have to impress people we don’t like or know.”

    • thornik

      I think end is “…to impress people who don’t care.”

  • Ray Mulder

    I know I’m going to get clapped now 🙂 but…
    I blame it on the women who dream all their lives about walking down the isle in that million dollar white dress despite the fact that they might have had 16 sexual relationships and are no longer a virgin.:)
    Then they must invite all their friends to show off how well they have done in reeling in a rich husband who will look after them while they buy buy buy anything with hubbies credit card.
    Now of course we cannot just have fish and chips in take a way bakkies with plastic spoons…so we have to hire the most expensive caterer with silver cutlery and lace and gold trimmings.
    Then we have to invite every god damn aunty and cousin we don’t even know anymore just in case they are rich and bring expensive presents.
    And so it goes…and….
    Here are the hard facts about divorce in South Africa: In 2012 there were 161,112 marriages, and just under 22,000 divorces. 53% of marriages are solemnised at the Department of Home Affairs (where 75.6% end up in divorce); 30% are religious (20% end up divorced); 17% are unspecified (4.3% end up divorced).Nov 15, 2015.
    So enjoy your marriage because you have a good change of soon having to pay for a lawyer to get divorces….but wait…don’t worry ex hubbie wil pay for all that 🙂

    Please note girls this is just a light hearted post so don’t get your nickers in a knot…we do love you most of the time 🙂

    • samantha

      What does being a virgin have to do with this? Are you a virgin Ray? So virgin girls deserve a good wedding, and non virgins don’t? You’re an idiot.
      And oh, I really don’t get why all the men are complaining about the costs of weddings, seeing that they’re only responsible for a fraction of the expenses.
      If you decided to go 50-50, it was your decision to do it that way.
      Get over yourselves.

      • Ray Mulder

        So why are you so emotional about this Samantha? did I touch a nerve?
        I was trying to be light hearted and you turned it into a war and a chance to make people think you know it all…which you clearly do not.
        In the old days a white dress was a symbol of virginity… purity of the soul etc.
        Got it?
        Does that make me an idiot? or does it just please you to belittle people when you have no idea of symbolism and culture?
        Have a good day 🙂

    • LBS

      Roy, I tend to agree with most of what you said. In my days, yes, my parents insisted on giving me a big wedding, it was traditional, they could afford it, I only paid for my dress. But these days, prices got way out of hand and young people (or most of the parents, for that matter), simply cannot afford it. They all run out and do it on credit. All for one day, all for a fairytale. If you can afford it, go for it, if you can’t, get real and move on, accept it. Rather spend your money on a nice short honeymoon and buy nice things for your house or flat. I’m not saying don’t get married in a nice dress, but be reasonable, and have a small intimate occasion if you can’t pay for the full monty. Don’t get yourself into debt over a “dream”.
      My kids saved for a long time to have “her” perfect wedding but thank goodness they don’t have to pay anything off now, not even the honeymoon. Yet, they could have had a whole lot more towards their first house by now.

      • Ray Mulder

        Thank you for not chewing my head off, I am just in a playful mood today 🙂
        My daughter is 40 and she is a single mom, my granddaughter is 8 and is just so lovely, and her Dad is a great guy. We all get on fine and there is no pushing anyone to get married.
        I guess we all just do it differently and my advise to the madly in love is to give it a few more months or even years…after all no one is supposed to be going anywhere 🙂
        Compulsive moves often lead to a lot of pain later in life…
        Take care.

  • Hein Aggenbag

    Got married 10 months ago…the wedding venue, photo’s, clothes, honeymoon and deserts and drinks (we did not do full catering) cost R30 000. Our gift vouchers and cash contributions totaled over R15 000 for about 100 guests that showed up.

    It was such an epic wedding and honeymoon…the only thing we would change? We would make it completely open invite for all our friends. (being part of a church means you have many many loved ones and it’s so hard to cut any from the list)

  • Fermanaxus Neovortamin

    Properly titled:
    How much it costs to get married if you have money to waste

    There is absolutely no reason that a wedding HAS to be expensive but many reasons why having an expensive one is a waste.

    This just perpetuates the idiocrisy of the wedding marketing scam.

    Ask yourself these questions:
    – Are expensive rings an obsolute necessity, IOW, will NOT having expensive rings diminish the importance or value of the couple’s relationship or love for each other? If yes, you need to reevaluate to whom or why you’re getting married. Also the diamond ring IS the greatest marketing scam of the past century. see: origin of diamond ring De Beers
    – do you feel you need to take a loan out for a wedding? WTH for? It’s just one day. Dont be silly. If you’re thinking “but what about my dream wedding ive been planning since i was a child”, then I have unfortunate news for you that marriage isnt about the wedding. It’s just the first day. Yes it is important and special day for you and spouse, but not enough to warrant invredible debt. Plenty of people are stuck paying off debt for something that is worthless, people who took 10s – 100s of thousands out in loans to pay for a wedding where the actual marriage only lasted like a few months. Why start off something on such a bad note, your getting married is what put you in debt? Not smart move
    – do I really need to invite all these people? People that will either forget about you the next day, complain about everything from the food to decor, or even know wtf you are (from your side). Simple test, have you spoken to or seen them in the last year? If no, and theyre not immediate family, then absolutely no reason to invite them. If they haven’t actually been a part of your life and theyve moved on theres no reason why you shouldnt too.

    Of course if some other party is insisting on paying for the event, then let them or if you actually have the disposable income to pay for expensive wedding then by all means.

  • Hein Aggenbag

    Got married 10 months ago…the wedding venue, photo’s, clothes, honeymoon and deserts and drinks (we did not do full catering) cost R30 000. Our gift vouchers and cash contributions totaled over R15 000 for about 100 guests that showed up.

    It was such an epic wedding and honeymoon…the only thing we would change? We would make it completely open invite for all our friends. (being part of a church means you have many many loved ones and it’s so hard to cut any from the list)

  • thornik

    Don’t organize “wedding” – say to _all_ people it’s birthday, rent restaurant, buy everything you need and…. surprize – cost will be fraction less! 🙂

  • This article is far from accurate based on this country, makes no mention of Lobola!!

    • Madimetsha

      actually did

  • Padraigin Eagle

    Going down the aisle in style: Can the pastor swim

    I knew I shoulda never paid for those Pole dancing lessons: Can never trust those eastern types.

    https :// www. youtube. com/watch?v=kMLkMonDckY

  • Dawie

    You can save a large amount by buying the ring from a place like bidorbuy.
    Jewellers are very overpriced.

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