All disagreements about money – what to spend it on, how much to save, who pays for what – can lead to stress and even a break-up, if not addressed appropriately in time.
This is according to Lizl Budhram, head of advice at Old Mutual Personal Finance, who notes that one of the biggest questions couples face when they’re thinking about getting married or moving in together is whether to open a joint bank account or maintain separate bank accounts.
“This conversation becomes even more important and sensitive when one partner earns more than the other,” she said.
Budhram believes there’s a strong case for maintaining your financial independence and having separate bank accounts.
“Pooling your monthly income in one bank account can lead to disputes over individual spending patterns and cause unhappiness in a relationship,” she said.
“A joint bank account can also create problems if one spouse dies, because the account is frozen until the estate is wound up, leaving the surviving spouse to face possible financial hardship in the interim.”
However, when it comes to household expenses, Budhram believes it may be wise to open a joint bank account into which each partner contributes an amount proportionate to their salary.
“In other words, the person earning the most should contribute the most. And who pays for what and what is paid for jointly needs to be discussed and decided upfront.”
Below Budhram outlined seven tips for couples who are thinking about opening a joint bank account.
Know your own financial status
Before you commit to a joint account, even if only for shared expenses, speak to your partner about your financial status. Be open and clear about your individual debt (loans, car repayments, store cards etc.), debit orders and any family obligations.
Have a realistic plan in place to reduce your debt and reach out to an accredited financial adviser if you need help.
Do the research
It can be surprising how loyal people can be to their own individual banks. Look at the type of bank accounts on offer and consider the value-added benefits as a couple.
Compare prices, especially transactional costs, and make sure the features suit both of you. Consider linking your joint accounts to a free app like 22seven that categorises your spending so that you have a clear view of where your money is going.
Decide upfront who pays for what. Get into the habit of drawing up a budget together so that there are no surprises at the end of the month.
Programmes like Old Mutual Rewards make it easy to access free templates online and you’ll be rewarded for using them.
Set savings goals
Identify your big joint goals and purchases – from your own home to a new car or a holiday – and then together set specific savings goals and work out how to achieve them.
The earlier you start, the less you will need to set aside each month to achieve your desired goals.
Be clear on your priorities
If your attitudes to money and your spending habits are very different, you could experience a lot of stress unless you prioritise together.
Some people are spenders, and some are savers.
It’s important to arrive at a compromise that balances the joy of living in the moment with the need to save for tomorrow and for a rainy day.
Know your own level of money savviness
When you enter a relationship, you bring your own experience in managing money.
It’s important to acknowledge and understand each other’s thoughts when it comes to money. Leverage your partner’s strengths and know which areas you personally need to work on.
Online courses like Moneyversity are a good way to increase your money savviness.
With a joint bank account it’s key that each partner understands the risks. Protect your passwords, personal and online banking information. Use secure devices, don’t share your PIN and use additional safety precautions like two-factor authentication.
Budhram adds that relationships are about much more than just money, of course, but poor money habits can undermine trust and cause havoc in a relationship.
“When it comes to managing money as a couple, there is no one-size-fits-all method. As a couple you’ll need to find what works best for you and your unique circumstances and preferences,” she said.
“The most important consideration for finding an optimal solution is open and honest communication – conversations about money matters are often avoided, which creates potential for misunderstanding due to different spending and savings habits and a deep-rooted difference in views on money and finances.
“Support each other emotionally as well as financially by taking responsible steps towards a financially secure future together.”